February 15, 2015


I’ve had my priorities out of line a little bit lately.

You see I have been doing a really good job of trying too hard.

I’ve been trying really hard to make sure I have been a good dad.  Spending time with the kids, making sure I have been helping around the house.  Making sure I have been home and available to help raise our two little ones.

I have also been trying hard to make sure I stay in The Word.  Reading the Bible on a regular basis and staying in prayer.

I have also been trying really hard to meet my wife’s needs.  I have been trying to make sure I am engaged when I get home from work in our conversations.  I have  been turning my work thoughts off and using “100% listening” while we are talking and paying more attention to what her needs are.

I thought I had been getting it right.

But I haven’t.

I realized that I had my priorities out of order.

It should be:  God, spouse, family, everything else.

I was doing: God, family, spouse, everything else.

A  Real Christian Businessman knows he has to have his relationship with his spouse 2nd only to that of God.  His family, his kids, his job, all must take a back burner to his relationship with Jesus (1st), and then his wife (2nd).

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” Eph 5:25 (ESV)

I thought putting our family (our kids) ahead of my spouse was the right thing to do.  But I ended up realizing that it puts our marriage at a disadvantage.  We aren’t in sync like we should be on discipline for the kids.  We aren’t parenting together.  Our relationship suffers because we don’t have our best interests in mind.

When we put our marriage second to that only with God, it allows us to be strong together. It allows our children to see that we are in unity and that we are working together – that we truly love each other.

I made some adjustments this week to get everything back in order.

Is it time for you to realign your priorities  – or does everything look like it is supposed to?

It’s probably worth taking a look.

One Comment on “Priorities

February 15, 2015 at 10:02 am

That’s a hard realization – we often confuse spouse with family. Thanks for clarifying – your spouse must be pretty blessed to have such an introspective and loving man!


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