March 27, 2016

Is It Really Important?

For those that know me well, you know that I have a personality that tends to sweat the small stuff.  

Like really really small stuff.

Like stuff that ends up driving my family and sometimes my co-workers crazy.

But recently, as I am reading the book The Magic of Thinking Big by Dave Schwartz, I came across something that has changed my outlook on life.

A four-word saying that is simple – yet powerful – “Is it really important?”

As Dave Schwartz puts it: ”Most quarrels start over petty, unimportant matters. Here is a technique that works: Before complaining or accusing or reprimanding someone or launching a counter-attack in self defense, ask yourself “is it really important?”  In most cases, it isn’t and you avoid the conflict. “

or in biblical terms:

“Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” 1 Thess 5:18 NIV

As a Real Christian Businessman, putting this into practice at work turns potential conflicts into successful meetings.

At home it turns an argument with your spouse into a night of smiling and laughing.

It turns a complaining mindset into a can do attitude.

It helps in all situations.

So the next time you go to say something that most likely will cause a conflict, instead try and first say to yourself “Is it really important?” and see how the outcome turns out.

You may be surprised.


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2 Comments on “Is It Really Important?

Brad Poel
March 27, 2016 at 6:48 am

Great question to ask oneself… Thanks, Don. I’m in a place where I REALLY need to be asking myself this question daily (hourly) to help really prioritize the critical from the non-essential at work. This is also an invaluable question on the home-front to ensure I’m maximizing my time and relationships with my wife and kids. Thanks, Don!

March 27, 2016 at 10:09 am

I’ve started asking myself this question all the time now too Brad!



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